My Gift of Love

10 Ways I Can Start Showing Love Now For A Better Life. 

​Top 10 Ways I Can Show Love For A Better Life Now!
 
Love is an infinite source of power and energy available right here, right now.
 
How well are you using this incredible power of Love in your daily life?
 
There are so many definitions of Love, but I don’t like to define something like Love. Instead, I like to elevate the power of Love to a Goddess being. To me, she is the White Goddess of Love. As it is said, a God defined is a God confined to the definition. I deify Love because when I meet Her at Her level, I immediately feel more Love radiating through me and outwardly towards others.
 
I do not confine Love to a definition, however, there are some power words that I believe are in the essence of Love. Here are a few:
 
Love
Strength
Affection
Personal
Tenderness
Admiration
Respect
Benevolence
Assurance
Warmth
Enthusiasm
Devotion
Compassion
Loyal
Well-being
Patience
Humility
Infinite
Beautiful
Care
Kindness
Creative
 
Each one of these words holds power for my life. They are tools to use whenever and wherever I need to. I appreciate the phrase “Love conquers all.” However, I would change it slightly to, “Love rises above all.”
 
Bad feelings are low vibratory energies (frequencies). Good feelings are high vibratory energies (frequencies). There are many scientific books that prove this truth and how it works in the human body. I will include some references at the end of the blog. In essence, Love raises my level of energy, consciousness, and awareness up to the highest levels. When we are in the power of Love, we feel invincible. If we remain in the power of Love, we are invincible.
Below are 10 areas in life that require your Love. Feel free to read each one and apply the practice techniques to your life if applicable. Or you can bounce to the ones that will serve you most!
 
10. My Space
 
I can use these aforementioned power words in writing or in speech to immediately uplift the amount of Love I feel in my space in any given moment. I can “fill my Love tank” if I will it just by saying these power words out loud to myself.
 
Practice: I close my eyes, take a few deep breathes, bring my focus to my heart and speak whichever power words come to my mind. I allow the word a moment to echo through my whole body. It will clear my space of negativity.
 
9. My Community
 
I can see how my interaction with my community directly reflects where I am in relation to Love. Am I feeling super judgmental? Am I cursing others while in traffic? Or am I feeling affectionate towards others with a helpful attitude and awareness? The latter occurs when I bring myself to the level of Love when I am out and about in my community. It has to be a moment-to-moment decision sometimes so being conscious in the moment is going to take some repetition and intention. For example: if I notice that I get negatively emotional while in traffic, I can write on an index card, “I will show Love to my community,” and tape it near the steering wheel.
 
Practice: Before you leave the house, I will say, “I will look for ways to show Love while in my community.” Or I can pray, “I request the most benevolent outcome for showing Love while running my errands today.” I have seen how this immediately increases my awareness of patience and kindness regardless of anyone else’s actions.
 
8. Your Rest & Recovery
 
In our GOGOGO society, it is hard sometimes to let myself off the hook and rest. Sometimes I feel like I don’t even know how to rest. I constantly feel bogged down by my to-do list and it always weighs on my mind. Rest assured, my rest and recovery is of paramount importance so I can give my all to everything else every day.
 
Practice: When I have a lot on my mind, I write down everything that comes to mind on a piece of paper or journal. I get it written down and then I can let it go while I rest. My list will be there when I’m done resting.
 
Next: I set myself up for rest. To help, I appeal to all of my senses (sight, smell, taste, touch, and sound) to encourage relaxation. Here are some things that I do:
 
Sight: Dim the lights to your liking. The level should be that it does not stimulate your mind or stress your eyes.
Smell: I use essential oils but choose a smell that brings you peace and relaxation. I’m a big fan of lavender, but everyone is quite unique. A candle might be a good option for both sight and smell.
Taste: I do not eat anything that will stimulate my body or bother my system before I rest. This may take some trial and error, but with intention, you’ll know what helps you relax. It might be a cup of chamomile tea or it might be some warm milk. Brushing your teeth can leave you feeling refreshed and ready for rest. Record in a journal what works and what doesn’t work to help you feel relaxed.
Touch: Clean sheets, cool pillow, comfortable laying position, and a warm blanket are all ways that you can set yourself up for a most benevolent rest. Make adjustments as needed. A good massage therapist is also excellent selfcare. If you have a partner, ask for a foot, head, or back rub. Don’t forget to reciprocate the favor!
Sound: I use the app Better Sleep for my sound relaxation. There is a vast variety or noises, music, and brainwaves to create a mix of your favorite. You can also adjust levels of each soundtrack that you choose. I personally Love the morning rain, ocean waves, eternity music, and dreams brainwaves mix. If I’m meditating, I have a different mix for that situation.
 
Get your rest! Love your recovery time!
 
7.  Your Work
 
This can be a tough one. Do you like what you do for work? For me, sometimes the answer has been, “Absolutely not.” When this happened to me in the Navy, it was incredibly difficult because there was no escaping my duties. Do not worry! First, if you don’t like what you do for a living you can always do some self-searching on what you might prefer to do. I asked myself, “What do I want to find purpose in doing?” There are many literary resources available to help with a transition in work or career. Of course, during the transition to something I Love doing for work, I must maintain internal peace.
 
Practice: When I was experiencing lack of purpose in my work, I first decided that it didn’t matter what I was doing. I set my intention to do the best work possible. My purpose became to do the very best possible with any given task. I started to accomplish a level accomplishment and pride in every little thing I did. Suddenly, my mundane tasks became more important responsibilities, but regardless, I found purpose in everything. It was that simple. As I continued to apply this new practice of “doing my best,” I continued to find more fulfillment at the end of each day. This led me to accomplish some incredible things in my military career and professional life. I could take pride in my work. I found new Love for everything that I did because it was a new opportunity to do my best work. In doing this, I found my gifts because they began to shine more brightly with every accomplishment.
 
6.  Your Home
 
The most important work I will ever do will be inside the walls of my own home. The bedroom is a space for rest, relaxation and intimacy. The kitchen is a space for sustenance. The living room is a space for gathering and entertainment. The front door is a warm welcome to your safe space. The home is a mirror reflection of the condition of our lives. How does your space look?
Practice: My home serves me and I serve my home. The more I serve my home, the better my home serves me. I will make a priority to reflect Love into my individual home spaces and show gratitude for the way that space serves me. I will set a schedule during the week to show Love in each space so that my home can better serve me with peace, comfort, relaxation, and enjoyment!
 
5.  Food
 
Food will be my medicine or medicine will be my food. I am what I eat. That food becomes a part of my body. What blocks am I using to build my house? Are they trash? Are they strong blocks for a strong house? I am what I eat. More than that, I am what I eat eats. Do I know where my food came from? Do I know the quality of the soil? Do I know what the farmers used to treat the plants and fruits? What chemicals could I be exposed to by eating this food? Do I know how my meat was raised before it was slaughtered for food? Was it humanely raised? What was it fed? Was the animal respected? How did it die?
 
Are the food items that I consume helping me thrive? Do I consume my nutrition with Love and Gratitude?
 
Practice: I simply bless my food with power words or prayer and express gratitude from my heart. I simply ask the food to bring healing and blessings to my body. I thank the animals for the gift of the meat. I thank the plants for the gifts of the food. Gratitude is a powerful transformation tool that I can use at any time to change the nature of anything from a negative to a positive. I try my best to buy small brand, organic, free-range, grass-fed, and local. I try my best to eat homecooked food. I try my best to not eat anything fast, cheap, and easy because I don’t want to be described that way. However, no matter what, I eat with gratitude.
 
4.  Water
 
We can go days without food, but without water, we would not make it so long. In addition, dehydration can cause an abundance of negative side effects in our bodies. Unfortunately, the water is polluted with chemicals in the process of treatment by the water treatment facilities. These chemicals I do not want in my body. I would highly recommend a whole house filtration system so that the sink, the shower, and the water hose all run with clean, chemical free water. At least, I believe that it is a necessity these days to at least have a reverse osmosis system on the kitchen sink for clean cooking and drinking water.
 
Think about how water moves through a mountain spring. It’s naturally cleaned by deep aquifers, flows freely, and is exposed to clean air. It is oxygenated by the free movement, caressed by the rocks and minerals, and nurtured by the sun. This is living water. Living water is the best water to drink for ultimate hydration. Bottled water and tap water do not have the same life as a mountain spring. Matter of fact, these water sources can even be dangerous to our health. However, there is something we can do about it.
 
Practice: I am a person who prays over my water. I also speak power words into the water. I focus on my heart and tell the water what I need and speak life into the water. Sure, it sounds a little hokey, but it works! There is even great science to prove it. Look up Dr. Masuro Emoto and his book the Hidden Secrets of Water.
 
Otherwise, I can pick fresh herbs such as mint or lemon balm and put it in my water. I can also spin a pinch of sea salt and honey into my water and squeeze a fresh amount of fruit juice into the water (I recommend lemon, orange, pineapple or lime not in a container, but from the fruit itself). If I have the time, I can also prepare a pitcher of water with fresh cut strawberries, herbs, melons, and/or cucumber pieces mixed in the water. It’s delicious! The water will love it and will bless your health. Love on your water! After all, it is a vital part of being and staying alive.
 
3.  Nature
 
There is a lot we could unpack with this particular love topic! Mother Earth wants to love on us, and she wants to feel your affection too! I believe we are her children. Afterall, dust shall return to the dust from which it came, right? We are a part of her, and she is a part of us. It is unfortunate that some do not ever pay her any mind. Even worse, many completely disregard or even act abusively towards the health of our great Earth. This is something that we all need to change immediately and for our great benefit!
 
It is terribly unfortunate that some of our media resources spread incredible fear of the outdoors and nature. Don’t fear the animals, the elements, and the plants. This is a shame! We need to shed the fear and reconnect in a big way to exchange love with our divinely created Mother Earth. With that reconnection, we can position ourselves in a power position to co-create with the Prime Creator (God) and Mother Earth.
 
Seeing and interacting with nature releases a huge dose of feel-good hormones that are very beneficial to our body and mood. Go and actually hug a tree and then tell me how you feel after. If you pray, say your prayer while touching the tree. Allow these natural antennae to amplify your prayer and give it power!
 
Practice: Please, I beg you, go walk through nature and open a connection (that is all your senses!). Take a look around and admire how tall and strong the trees grow. Take a breathe of the clean air and notice how it smells. Run your hand over the leaves or grass and notice how they feel. Rub a bit of dirt between your palms and say thank you for the ground that provides all the nutrients for all this nature that was created just for you! Hear the birds and the rustling of the leaves caused by the cool breeze that is providing the fresh air for all to breathe. See if you can hear any animals rustling around doing their work. Do you see any animals? Are they close? Try speaking to them like their your pets. It may sound silly at first, but notice the reaction you get when you express love outwardly towards nature. Try to imagine how it would taste if you came across your favorite fruit growing wildly amongst the trees! The more time you spend with our wild mother Earth, the more your connection will grow and for goodness sake, take off your shoes and play like a child!
 
2.  Loved Ones
 
Jesus was a great teacher who taught many things, but one thing He said stands above the rest. “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Through my journey, I have asked,
 
“How do I possibly do that?”
“How do I love my neighbor that I do not like?”
“How do I love my neighbor if I fear that I can’t trust them?”
“How do I love my neighbor that I do not know?”
 
The “neighbor” can be anyone from a spouse or partner, family member, next-door neighbor, or any of the people in my community at large. My neighbor is the sweet older lady next door who brings me cookies and also the dude that just cut me off in traffic. My neighbor is all my best friends and all the relationships that have gone bad over the years. How do I love everyone?
 
I have this tendency to follow a pattern of relationship to other people. It goes like this: see them, make a connection, like the connection, get to know them, interact with them more, like them more, grow the connection, start to trust them, then I can even start to love them and want them actively in my life. If I did not like the connection, I usually dismissed them at any point in the relational progression.
 
It can no longer be that easy to dismiss others or simply not to like other people because they aren’t vibing with me. I can’t simply choose to have another person in my life or dismiss them entirely because the connection isn’t good for me. I have to get beyond a need for a direct connection with others (or a convenience for myself) before I begin to outwardly express love for my neighbor. I need to start now. But how?
 
As with nature, sometimes the lack of connection can just be a matter of intention. In many instances, I am surrounded by people more than I am surrounded by nature. Whether it be nature or people, do I have any immediate snap judgements about the situation I’m about to enter where I will be with or around people? Whether it is my immediate romantic relationship or I’m in rush hour traffic, there is something I can always do to give my love for others a huge boost.
 
Practice: I will begin by acknowledging a simple truth. All other people are the exact same as me. We all go about our lives looking for something by having experiences. We all want to be happy. Sometimes we get lost and are not happy, but that doesn’t mean that we aren’t always still actively searching for it.
 
I have started by intentionally choosing to love other people whether it serves me or not. I have chosen love. It’s by no means easy, but that why it has to be intentional. I reopen the connection between myself and others by having compassion towards their situation even if I don’t know what it is. What do they need from me? What can I do for them? Sometimes all we can do is quietly pray, “I love you. I want you to be happy.” Yes, that means even towards the guy that just cut me off in traffic.
 
If I have an open disagreement with someone close to me, I can simply say, “I love you. I want you to be happy. What do you need? What can I do for you?” Then I follow through with my selfless intention. This is not easy, but it is necessary.
 
If a direct connection with someone is toxic or unsafe for me, I may need to love them from a distance. Selfless love does not mean putting my own love for myself at risk. Again, this is not always easy, but it is necessary.
 
I choose to dismiss judgement. I choose to express love. And I will set notes around my environment to remind myself to do so just in case I need some encouragement during a difficult situation.
 
1.  Yourself
 
This is the most important obviously because it’s number one! This is a crash course in learning to fall back in love with myself. I’m not talking about narcissism. I’m not talking about egotistical behavior. I’m talking about love, respect, and appreciation for myself.
 
Jesus said, “…as you love yourself?”
 
“How exactly do I love myself?”
“Wait a minute, do I even know myself?”
“Do I trust myself?”
“Do I even like myself?”
“Who am I?”
“Where do I come from?”
“Why am I here?”
“Where am I going and what am I doing?”
 
How do you look at yourself in the mirror? Think about that for a second.
 
In my experiences with the mirror in the past, I have felt shame, guilt, disgust, and even hate. I have had incredibly damaging judgement, insulting remarks, and a complete lack of value for my own reflection. Unfortunately, some of these feelings have played out in how I lived my life. Some of my behavior was very damaging to my health, my relationships, and my connection to the world.
At one point, I knew I had to do something about it. I was slowly dying in a miserable existence of hell.
 
I knew I had a profound gift to show love to others. I knew I could quickly forgive others and ask for forgiveness from others if I messed up. But what about myself? Could I possibly love myself? Could I possibly forgive myself? Could I possibly except the apology? Could I possibly regain the positive relationship with myself? Could I possibly make that phone call to myself and say, “Hey bro, we need to make things right. It’s important for our life that we love each other again.”
 
Practice: What are my gifts? What am I good at? I’m going to write those down. If there is nothing that I’m good at, I’m going to start working on all these things written in this blog. I’m going to take the next right step towards knowing that I’m good at something. Walking in the woods and hugging a tree could be that thing that I’m the best at!
 
Next, I’m going to make that necessary phone call to myself and have the most important conversation to regain my life. Here’s how I did it:
 
1. Stand in front of the mirror and make direct eye contact.
2. Take 4 deep breathes in, hold it, slowly let it out, hold it, take another breathe.
3. Maintain eye contact and say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me for how I’ve treated you.”
4. Maintain eye contact and say, “I accept your apology. Thank you.”
5. Maintain eye contact with yourself and repeat, “I love you,” ten times. Feel it in your heart more and more each time I say it.
 
I cried so hard the first time I did this practice. It was awfully hard to do. After nearly 30 minutes of staring myself in the face, asking forgiveness, accepting forgiveness, saying thank you, and saying I love you with genuine feeling through the tears, I immediately felt a spark of self-respect, self-appreciation, and self-love tremble through my being. I repeat this practice on a regular basis and I can say from direct experience, it has changed my life. It has completely changed how I regularly connect with the world around me. Most importantly, it has dramatically increased the value I have for my life and my purpose here on this planet.
 
I am here to serve others. I am here to play life. I am here to give and experience love. I am here to express my gifts. My existence here on Mother Earth is important. I am a child of the Prime Creator. I am a child of God. I was made in God’s image. He is my father and Love is my mother. I have everything that they bestowed upon me. I deserve to be happy as does everyone else. They are also children of God, the divine Goddess of Love, and Mother Earth. Everything is beautiful and perfect as it is, including me.
 
I am not alone.